A little reminder today.

Salam Alaikum sisters🌸 How are you feeling today?

A little reminder today.
When you already feel that you are going to fight with kids …. STOP. 🛑Even if you in hurry, you can hurry more respectfully. Give yourself a minute (or 10) to breathe, to move, to remind yourself that this is not such an emergency, that you are really safe.
When we attack, children must defend themselves (that's what healthy people do).
When we adjust ourselves and we give them a quiet few minutes, and then we explain our needs, the children are usually much easier willing to cooperate.

Since I started to explain why I’m reacting so severe my children started to show more empathy towards me, more helping me and caring about me.
So it’s all about how we explaining kids why we rushing or reacting severe, what are our needs, and what we afraid of. Yes, almost always behind our reactions is fear. We simply afraid to be not on time, to receive negative attention, afraid to fail as a parent and mom,l ect. I’m encouraging you to notice your reactions.