And dear Brothers and Sisters, learning to communicate differently, even changing the way we phrase our sentence, may feel strange at first. I completely understand you all. Many of you may try these examples and think, “This doesn’t sound like me.”
That simply shows how accustomed we have become to communicating on autopilot, without paying much attention to the words we choose.
The examples I shared are only simple examples. Real communication is not about memorising sentences. It is about developing curiosity.
If we truly want to improve our communication skills, we need to become genuinely curious about the other person.
When I enter a conversation, my intention should not be to win or prove that I am right. My intention should be to meet the other person somewhere in the middle, even if our opinions are different.
I become curious.
What is this person feeling?
What did they actually mean?
Why did they respond that way?
What are they trying to communicate?
Being curious does not mean losing yourself, compromising your values, or giving up healthy boundaries. You can maintain your boundaries while remaining open to understanding another person’s perspective.
Conflict is rarely resolved because one person proves they are right. More often, it is resolved because both people become curious enough to understand one another.
And as always, my intention is to help us all become more conscious. Conscious living and conscious responses create healthier relationships, stronger communication, and, by the permission of Allah, more peaceful hearts.