Dear brothers and sisters,
Hope you all are doing well.
I always remind parents to evaluate their knowledge about children.
But first—let’s honestly look at ourselves.
How much—out of 100%—do you truly know about yourself?
🤔About how your body functions?
🤔Your feelings?
🤔Your character traits?
🤔Your wishes, your dreams, and what you really want to do in life?
🤔And how much do you understand about emotions—your own emotional world?
🤔Do you know what to do when you feel sadness, anger, anxiety, joy, or fear?
🤔Do you give yourself space to feel?
🤔Do you know how to process emotions in a healthy way—or do you push them down, ignore them, or react from them?
🤔*And how much do you know about a child’s physiological and emotional development?*
🤔About their needs, their brain, their inner life?
Let’s get to know ourselves more.
Let’s grow in our understanding of children.
*Knowledge brings compassion, and compassion transforms relationships.*‼️
Today I want to remind you of something deeply important:
A child’s inability to “handle” their emotions is not a failure—it’s a natural part of their development.
When we talk about children under 7 or 8 years old, we must understand:
They simply cannot regulate their emotions on their own when something upsets them.
Not because they don’t want to—but because they biologically can’t.
The part of the brain responsible for emotional regulation, impulse control, understanding situations, and seeing another person’s perspective is not yet fully developed.
And it doesn’t finish developing at 7 or 8—it continues all the way into a person’s *mid-20s.*‼️
So when we expect a 2, 3, or 6-year-old to calm themselves, to “behave,” to control their reactions—we are placing expectations on them that don’t match their developmental stage.
This often leads to frustration, anger, and a need for control—because the child cannot meet expectations they were never meant to meet in the first place.
Children are not supposed to “get over” emotions.
*They are meant to go through them—with our help.*‼️
This process is called CO-REGULATION:
When a child borrows the calm and presence of a caring adult to navigate their emotional storm.
When we expect children to simply stop feeling, that’s not regulation—it’s suppression.
And suppressed emotions don’t disappear. They get stored in the body, becoming emotional triggers, reactive patterns, and sometimes even physical illness.
Sometimes children want to be alone, or we may not be able to be physically present, but we can still hold space for them with trust and love.
We can create safety with our presence—even in silence.
We can believe in their ability to move through emotions—and let them know they are not alone.
One of the most powerful things we can say—to our children and to our inner child—is this:
*“I am here with you.”*❤️
And a grounding reminder for every parent and caregiver:
❤️ “My child isn’t giving me a hard time. My child is having a hard time.”
So when your child is screaming, crying, whining, hitting, throwing things, or collapsing onto the floor—remember:
Your first task is to regulate yourself.
Only a grounded adult can help a child return to balance.
✅Let’s begin with ourselves.
✅Let’s explore our own inner world.
✅Let’s grow ourselves.
✅Let’s gain the knowledge, patience, and emotional awareness to be the safe space our children need.
Have a blessed Friday 🤲🏻❤️