Salam Alaikum dear Brothers and Sisters, hope you are doing well.
I always look at a person holistically, including their relationships. People want to change their relationships with their spouses, but before that, they need to change the relationship with themselves — and with their parents.
That’s why when couples having problems, first I am inviting to come individually to consultations, because the roots of problems are within us and in our lineage.
First and foremost is our relationship with our parents — especially with the mother and then with the father. 🧑🧒
Those who do not have close and good relationships with their parents, even if the parents have passed away, will struggle to create a truly harmonious relationship with another person, especially with a spouse.
Our parents are not only our roots — spiritually, emotionally, and physically — but also our first teachers about relationships.
The MOTHER’S Importance ❤️
The mother is our first connection to the world — the first source of love and safety. From the ancestral perspective, she is the central figure through whom vital energy, values, and the sense of belonging are passed on.
When we accept our mother as she is — with all her strengths and weaknesses — we are able to fully accept our life. This opens the path to success, harmony, and inner peace.
When we reject our mother or hold onto resentment, we often face repeated challenges in life — in relationships, health, and even our sense of self-worth.
By honoring our mother, we honor our entire ancestral line and receive her greatest gift — life itself. No matter what our relationship was like in the past, we can always find a way to connect with her in our heart, and this brings more peace and strength into our life.
🌸*Accept your mother — accept yourself.*🌸
The FATHER’S Importance ❤️
The father represents strength, direction, and support. He gives not only life, but also the energy to act, self-confidence, and determination to move forward.
When we accept our father as he is — with all his strengths and weaknesses— we open ourselves to the ability to grow, create, and achieve our goals.
If we reject our father or hold resentment, we face difficulties in reaching financial success, lack confidence, or feel disconnected from our inner strength.
By honoring our father, we honor the entire male ancestral line and allow ourselves to receive his gift — courage, stability, and the ability to act.
Accept your father — accept your strength. ❤️
Regardless of how the relationship was in the past, we can always reconnect with them in our hearts. ❤️ This may begin with a simple inner phrase:
“Thank you for giving me life, I received it from you.”
Sometimes, this single act of allowing can be the first step toward deeper peace and strength.
I truly wish that everyone finds the courage to strengthen their relationship with their parents 🤲🏻— not through blame or wishing they were different, but through acceptance and forgiveness for who they are and what they did. Even if this is done only in your mind and heart — it still matters a lot. Because we are half father and half mother, want we or not.
Wishing everyone a beautiful and peaceful day.
Send a message of love to your parents — even silently, in your 💭thoughts .
That quiet act of love can open something deep within you.
Love, acceptance and forgiveness begins inside. Peace begins with you.
Salam Alaikum. ❤️