Salam Alaikum brothers and sisters.
Hope you all are feeling well today.
It seems like Shaytan should be tightened, but many factors—including hunger—can still raise emotions. Today, about “Don’t Shout.”
Ramadan is a time of spiritual growth, patience, and self-discipline, yet many of us notice that *emotions can run high*—especially when fasting. Hunger, fatigue, and daily challenges can make us more sensitive, irritable, or emotional.
So Why Do People Shout During Conflict?
Shouting during conflict is not just about losing control; it happens when emotions take over. Understanding this allows us to recognise our reactions, stay in control, and communicate more effectively.
⚡️ *Feeling Unheard*– Raising the voice is often an attempt to gain attention and validation.
⚡️ *Emotional Overload*– Anger, frustration, and stress can cloud judgment, leading to shouting.
⚡️ *Loss of Self-Control*- In heated moments, logic diminishes, and emotions take over.
⚡️ Sense of Urgency – Some shout because they feel their point is critical and must be heard.
⚡️ Learned Behavior – Some people grew up in environments where shouting was a common way to express disagreement.
⚡️ Power Struggle – A louder voice is sometimes used to assert dominance in a conversation.
‼️ *It’s Not About Never Shouting—It’s About Recognizing It*‼️
The key is self-awareness:
✅Feel and acknowledge it out loud:
“I AM SHOUTING BECAUSE I FEEL FRUSTRATED!”
“MY VOICE IS RISING BECAUSE I FEEL UNHEARD!”
When you say it out loud, you bring awareness to your emotions. This simple step shifts you from reacting impulsively to responding with intention. It helps you pause, process, and regain control.
How to Regain Control in Conflict?
✅*Pause & Breathe* – Deep breaths help calm emotions before responding.
✅*Lower Your Tone* – Consciously speak slower and softer to de-escalate tension.
✅*Seek Refuge in Allah SWT*-Saying “A’udhu billahi min ash-shaytan ir-rajim” helps reset emotions.
✅*Step Away if Needed* – Taking a break before responding prevents regretful words. Just tell I need space and will be coming back.
Islamic Perspective on Anger and Speech
Allah and His Messenger (ﷺ) emphasize patience and good manners in speech:
• The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “The strong man is not the one who can wrestle, but the one who controls himself in anger.” (Bukhari & Muslim)
• Allah says: “And lower your voice; indeed, the most disagreeable of sounds is the voice of donkeys.” (Surah Luqman 31:19)
Shouting is a sign of strong emotions, but it doesn’t have to control us. By recognising when it happens, feeling it, acknowledging it out loud, and naming our emotions, we can take back control, improve communication, and handle conflicts with wisdom.
May Allah grant us patience and wisdom in our speech and actions. Ameen.🤲🏻❤️