Salam Alaikum sisters🌸 Hope you are feeling well.
One more picture for you to rethink.
About how and when to allow children to makes decisions it’s a big separate topic. But the most important is to trust your child and allow to make decisions accordingly to his/ her natural development in their childhood.
I noticed that to let control and allow kids to make decisions even if they are 20 years old 😬 it’s very hard for some parents.
Child who adapted that parents ( usually mother) making his/ her personal decisions always, living in fears and indecisiveness and delaying to create his/ her own life, take responsibility and make decisions.
That’s why we are having many adults who became doctors and engineers because parents wanted and now coming to psychologists to talk about their mental issues. Similar with marriages: “parents chose my spouse, I didn’t like it”.
Or “ My son is lazy, doesn’t have job, not interested in anything, sitting at home and I need to feed him”.
Or “ I want to do that, was thinking year ago to start doing and still want to do it but can’t…”.
Fears, indecisiveness, procrastination …waiting for something it’s coming from our upbringing.
Who can’t wait to know about it more can search for information. Small article I’m attaching here: https://www.dpsparowal.com/why-it-is-important-to-let-children-make-their-own-decisions/#:~:text=When%20your%20child%20makes%20a,them%20to%20take%20small%20decisions.
What about you? Is it easy to take decisions in life?