Our strong and repeated reactions are from our past, from our own childhood.…

Salam Alaikum sister.
Our strong and repeated reactions are from our past, from our own childhood. It’s all about us and our unintegrated feelings.

Childhood traumas are not only one time physical or emotional abuse, but can be repeated small factors, and sometimes even one small event is enough, which is strongly imprinted in the subconscious.

To grow again ourselves and comfort inner child, first we need to see ourselves, allow to feel suppressed feelings, integrate experiences in which we are stuck. This requires self-empathy, allowing yourself to feel and admitting that my feelings are important and valid. Sometimes it’s not easy to do it alone, but that’s why we all are here: to know more, to share, to heal and the most important - not to pass all our childhood traumas on our children but create strong relation with them and help them to grow .
If you are feeling you need more knowledge and support I recommend you to join our classes.🤗

3 simple tips to respond to children more calmly, with empathy and being in the present 💛✨
One of the most important steps is to PAUSE before reacting, and even just a few seconds of self-regulation can help you respond in a completely different way.

1. When you are ready to explode and react do PAUSE, INHALE till you count till 5, stop breathing for 2 seconds, EXHALE by counting till 5. Repeat it 3-4 times. And simply SMILE, half smile, inside smile, any smile is ok. Then you’ll come to situation not with severe reaction but more balanced and your response will be completely different.
2. SAY IN YOUR MIND THANK YOU. Thank you that you are in our family, that you came to me, that you reminding me about yourself. It will help to change your perspective, attitude towards the child and your reaction won’t be so strong.
3. IMAGINE YOU ARE 80 years old, and you are having opportunity to come back to same situation and to see your children little. What you would like to say to them and how you would like to react?

I hope these 3 tips will help everyone in a difficult situations. InshaAllah ❤️ Just use it.