Salam Alaikum sisters🌸 Hope you all are doing well.
The last bit about conflicts and relation today…
Conflict is a normal part of any healthy relation. People can’t be expected to agree on everything, all the time. Some of us in something already reached “Phd”level, some just going to “nursery”. Each having his own understanding, beliefs, values and developing in his/ her own speed.
Conflicts helping us to grow, to see another perspective, understand things, reflect and to turn to ourselves. When you're able to resolve conflict in a relation/ having healthy conflict it builds trust. You can feel secure knowing your relationship can survive challenges and disagreements and it’s ok to have different opinions or reveal feelings.
Hidden needs what are not specified causing damage to relation. Women and men often saying that spouse won’t understand my feelings, thoughts and words, he/ she never did it, that’s why I’d rather everything will keep inside.
And this is the biggest mistake and problem. I always saying that all problems would be solved if we openly communicate with each other and become active listeners. So each person needs to start from himself/ herself and ask question:
- Is it good for another person to live with me the way I am?
And then TAKE A RESPONSIBILITY for the expression of your feelings, words and thoughts in the relation.
And would like to remind to everyone-YOU CAN’T CHANGE ANOTHER PERSON. The other person will change when he/ she wants and needs and with Allah’s SWT help.
So it’s a big mistake if you want and expect changes in other person but not focusing and striving for self development.
I’m teaching people to be more conscious in relation about themselves, learn new things, unlearn old and changes will come Inshallah.
Wishing everyone blessed Friday ❤️ And please contemplate on this question:
- Is it good for another person to live with me the way I am?