We for You | Daily Reflection | *by Maryam* ❤️
Salam Alaikum dear Sisters,
I hope you are all doing well.
This weekend I had the chance to speak in person with my son, who is 19 years old and studying in another town. We talked about something very important -*letting people be themselves*.
The truth is, many of us know so little about ourselves, about relationships, and about life in general. Alhamdulillah, as Muslims and believers, we always have Allah SWT to rely on. But for those who struggle with their faith or feel lost, this reminder becomes even more meaningful.
Today I want to share a recommendation for anyone who needs it.
“LET THEM” - this is not only the title of Mel Robbins’ book The Let Them Theory, but also a powerful tool.
When I support people emotionally, I always highlight how important it is to let others think, feel, say, and choose what they want -even if that means they don’t love us, don’t like us, or don’t accept us.
And I’ll be honest - I am also still learning this myself. Learning to allow without forcing, without controlling, and without carrying every burden on my shoulders. It’s a journey of trusting Allah SWT, letting people be who they are, and at the same time honoring my own boundaries, dignity, peace, and the ajr that comes with patience and self-respect.
This book explains that concept beautifully.
I haven’t read a book in a long time that speaks so directly and simply. My mind is usually full - clients’ stories, responsibilities, projects -but this one stands out. Every chapter feels like a message: clear, grounded, human, without unnecessary layers. And the reflections and exercises truly resonate.
I rarely recommend books, but this is an exception.
Because I see transformation in my sessions every day. People change the moment they allow even the possibility of letting someone be who they are -especially someone they’ve been fighting internally for years.
A common example:
“My mom doesn’t love me. I’m never good enough. She is distant and critical…”
And during the practice, we say:
“I LET you, Mum, not love me and not accept me if that’s what you choose.”
When we cling to an image of how someone should be, we end up living in constant tension.
When we let go, the outside world may not change, but inside, a quietness appears. That quietness shifts our energy, softens our heart, and often changes the relationship naturally.
But when we can’t allow… we remain stuck in the same story - wasting time, energy, and health for years, sometimes decades. And for what? To prove the other person is wrong? Even if we “win,” nothing meaningful changes -only the ego gets a moment of satisfaction.
Just something to reflect on, dear sisters.
And always remember:
Letting others be themselves does not mean abandoning yourself. You must still have healthy boundaries, protect your heart, and stand firmly in your own identity.
In short: use “let them” for continuous and small frustrations and things outside your control. Do not use it when responsibility, boundaries, safety, or honest communication are required.
Islam teaches balance - compassion for others and compassion for yourself.
In the classes I teach, I always remind sisters that these are universal laws for inner peace - spiritual, emotional, and practical. And there are many more principles that help us walk through life with clarity, courage, and calmness.
Let them be themselves -
and you be yourself, with your values, your limits, and your trust in Allah SWT.
If this theory speaks to you or if your heart longs for deeper peace, I truly encourage you to read this book.
Wishing you all peace. ❤️
With love,
Your Sister in Growth
Maryam
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