Salam Alaikum sisters, hope you all doing well. 🌸
Today about CHILD’S EMOTIONS AFTER SCHOOL/ NURSERY/EVENT ECT.
💥Strong emotions of children after a very fun and full of activities day, makes parents often say:
"I tried so hard to make you feel good and you still act like this. You're ungrateful!"
Or after visiting a noisy place, a shopping center, or after nursery, or even after spending the whole day with a childminder ... strong emotions are completely natural.
🤍A child, especially a small child, will not tell you that he feels stressed, that he had a hard day, that there were so many excitements that they no longer fit in him, that he needs help, because he does not have enough skills to fully understand, integrate and regulate all this alone .
The child shows this by his difficult behavior, strong emotions, and also by his invitation to play together. 🌸
The child must re-assure his/ her safety in the family, confirm his/ her belonging in the family, his/her value, make sure that he/she is loved, release accumulated tension and emotions.
And he can do this only in connection with you.💗
Many women often doubt are they good mothers. Because children usually behave “incorrect/inappropriate” with them. "THERE WAS A BRILLIANT CHILD ALL DAY LONG. WHEN YOU CAME HE GOT DEMANDS AND TEARS RIGHT AWAY”.
BUT CHILDREN, JUST LIKE ADULTS, SHOW THEIR EMOTIONS TO THOSE WITH WHOM THEY FEEL SAFEST.
THIS IS NOT ABOUT SPOILED CHILD OR DOING SOMETHING WRONG.
KIDS RELEASING THEIR EMOTIONS AND ACCUMULATED STRESS WHICH THEY CAN’T REGULATE ALONE IN SAFE SPACE (USUALLY WITH MOTHERS). AND EVERYTHING IS OK WITH THAT.
Just like when you go home after a long day at work, you relax, talk to your close friend or husband, and sometimes you just let go of your emotions and cry even though you were calm at work.
EVEN WE ADULTS CAN REGULATE EMOTIONS MUCH MORE BETTER BY NOT REACTING WE ARE NOT DOING IT ALWAYS SUCCESSFUL.
CHILD CAN’T REGULATE EMOTIONS BY HIMSELF/ HERSELF. CHILD CAN FEEL IT, REGULATE AND TAKE YOUR CALMNESS ONLY IF YOU ARE CALM.