Salam Alaikum sisters. 🌸How are you doing today?
Today about FAMILY AND MOST IMPORTANT R.E.M.I.N.D.E.R.S
Family. What does this mean?
It's belonging.
Most of the children are in the "families ", but they really don't have a family and don't feel a sense of belonging in their family.
Family is about connection, acceptance, being and growing together, a base of security that you can lean on, not only when you're having fun and feeling good, but also when it's hard, confusing, painful, you are angry, disappointed and tired.
It is unconditional belonging, even if your communication is difficult you know that no matter what happens, you belong to your family and everything is fine with you. They see you. They hear you. They understand you.
Our children are already GOOD.💗 Even if you or others stick labels on them, like: ugly, bad, goat, monster, manipulator, etc...😓
Always remember that:
1. Children are naturally good and they don't need to become good.
Bad names, the pain of rejection, punishments, embarrassments, accusations, threats, loss of security creates inside pain. These all can manifest as an aggression, violence, apathy, suppression of emotions, physical diseases, stress and many other ways of coping with a stress/ pain strategies.
2. Child's behaviour is ALWAYS a natural part of their development or a communication of unmet needs.
A child who needs love, acceptance, to be listened ( parents say : a child seeking attention) can ask for it in most unkind and unpleasant ways (and that doesn't say anything about him as a person, so don't put any labels on him!)
3. The child is not doing difficult for you, it is difficult for him.
Let's see our children, let's slow down (notice yourself first, respond to your emotions and feelings consciously in the present moment so that it becomes a natural life for you).
Respond to THAT child in front of you, his needs, his feelings, knowing that he is already doing the best he can.💗