Salam Alaikum everyone 🌸Hope you are all doing well.
Today about HOW TO CONNECT with the child?
But how? If child not listening, not hearing, not behaving, not doing what I’m asking…..
A few simple reminders for connecting with your child, seeing the child, slowing down and establishing good relationship❤️
For you it will seem I’m repeating. But true understanding coming when we rethinking. Consciousness needs to be awakened and the best way to do it is through rethinking.
So….
🌸1. Slow down, feel the moment, feel your body, your energy.🌸
❤️2. Relation is a priority. If you now let go of control, fears, the desire to manipulate, force the child there will be room for communication and true relationship.❤️
🌸3. Look at your child. What is he/she feeling, what experiencing. See life through the eyes of a child right away. What are his/her needs? What does he/ she really feel? 🌸
❤️4. Parenting is not a job, it is a relationship with another human being where the needs of both are important. Move from control to relationship and cooperation. But don’t forget to draw and keep the boundaries ❤️
ASK YOURSELF:
❓What is my intention? What do I want to achieve? What do I feel and why? What do I know and how did I know it?
❓Is my child's behavior really a problem or just society's/ grandparent’s/ teacher’s expectations for the child? Is this really a problem? Are my expectations and other people expectations in line with the child's development? Do we all adults see, feel and understand the child or just judging his/ her behaviour?
❓How can we satisfy both our needs? Involve your child to solve the problem together (if it’s really a problem).
❓Does the child have the autonomy of his body? Is his body, his perspective, his personal boundaries visible and respected?
Everything is about communication.
If we are not having time to feel ourselves, to see child’s prospective, to be in relation, communicate and rethink what we expecting???
I know it’s easy to talk about it. But everything happening when we doing.
These all teachings is nothing, empty words and same like all other teachings or YouTube videos if you not contemplating and rethinking and adapting to your life consciously.
I’m always saying “Scan through yourself “rethink your beliefs, inner provisions, attitudes, parenting and….
Slow down 😊
You’ll start seeing yourself, husband, children from the different angle and prospective.
Changes coming but slowly 😊
….and I didn’t say the process will be easy😊
Btw I want to say that you might not see changes within yourself, but you all changing, I can see and feel it…
And your children and grandchildren will be thankful that you upgrading yourself and searching for the ways how to become better parent ❤️
May Allah SWT make it easy for you and bless your children.🤲🏻