Salam Alaikum sisters. How are you feeling today? 🌸
Today not about kids, but about YOU and your SELF-DEVELOPMENT.
Do YOU KNOW YOURSELF? Do you really know yourself?
When we describing or introducing ourselves we say I’M , example: “ Maryam, mum, wife, daughter, friend, colleague… ”
We prescribing/ naming titles, but we are very shalow knowing who we realy are and how to describe ourselves. Because even your name was given by others ( usually parents).
How we are saying: it’s my thoughts? Or I’M thoughts? It’s my Soul or I’M soul?
You knowing you are having emotions, thoughts, feelings, soul, body.
But that feeling I’M not disappearing. Even in childhood you knew you are. When you are looking to your childhood pictures you recognising yourself, you was… climbing, passing exam and first time riding bicycle… So that time I’M existed, and now you ARE.
You know you are having body, emotions, feelings, soul…
So who is that I’M who noticed that having all: body , soul, emotions… If there’s that who noticed, means there is someone who noticed that who noticed all? …And so on. And for the brain becoming difficult to understand who AM I.
Usually people asking: So, AM I endless?
I’m inviting you to turn to yourself today and ask question WHO AM I ? Who you really are? beside all feelings, thoughts, emotions, body, even soul, who you really are?
I recommend for you to do a task "Masks" 🎭
Take a sheet of paper and answer the questions below and only then read it on. 3-5 descriptive words are enough for the answer. Ex: good, bad, average, loyal, hard worker, ect ...
What am I as a daughter/son?
What am I like as a friend?
What am I as a partner?
What am I as a wife/husband?
What am I as a mother/father?
What am I as an employee?
What kind of person am I as a colleague?
What am I as a citizen of the country?
And when you write it all down, you'll no doubt notice that there are some repeating features what unite all of these areas. This is you! And at the same time not... Everything you wrote it’s just an expression of the mind and self-assigned models (masks). These are the qualities and features that you adopted in your childhood from authority figures ( parents/ grandparents/ relatives/ teachers ect.), these are the "labels" that were stuck in your head, accepted by you, and if you tear them off now, they can open wounds. Therefore, sometimes it is better to live with masks, to improve your roles, because it hurts less, right?
Well, now, look within and realize that none of the above masks are left! You are no longer that little child, a mum, a wife, a friend, a companion in life, a colleague, a participant in society... You remain naked, being yourself within yourself... no layers, no identifications with the roles of life that you have had until now...
SO WHO ARE YOU WITHOUT MASKS? WHAT ARE YOU WHEN YOU ARE YOURSELF?
HOW DOES IT FEEL TO BE YOURSELF?
Just BE...
Nowadays, there are a lot of teachings about what a woman you should be, what mother you should be, what you can do and what is not suitable….And maybe you noticed more than once that here, somewhere, you are feeling uncomfortable, you don't feel good, you don't fit in it, you even want to run away...
But where and from what?
Mostly from your own insecurity and trying to fit into someone else's (or your own) image.
BECAUSE LEARNING TO BE YOURSELF IT’S THE HARDEST PART.
Being yourself means sometimes being uncomfortable for others, not humble, not understood, not accepted, imperfect… even selfish…sometimes in others eyes.
But when you are yourself - it’s good within yourself!
You will not confuse that feeling with any other feeling and you will not deceive yourself...
It's a deep and free breath, a clear head, a clear mind, an inner smile and a sense of real life, when you are no longer constrained by the shackles of your own thoughts and beliefs, when you know what you want and live as you wish, when there are no more excuses why you can't do this or that, you just live and that's it!
Then comes harmonization of formerly complicated areas of life, the appearance of sincere people who give good emotions, life starts pouring all kinds of opportunities and gifts... and the long-awaited fullness fills the inside. And that doesn't mean there won't be glitches or trials. Will be, but the approach to them and the methods of solving them will be different, filled with completely different emotions and perceptions.
I know that to see yourself from that perspective, understand and meet true yourself it’s hard. But when you understand what you truly are life becomes much more better. All answers and true you are inside you.
Wishing everyone to discover yourself❤️